Indulge me, if you will…
At this very moment, I’m convinced I’m in the midst of a mid-life crisis. Had I been born male, there’s a good chance I’d be hooking up with younger women and driving two-seated sports cars (not that there’s anything wrong with that). That is, if I had a license. Being a native New Yorker, the only thing I’m capable of driving is people crazy.
Admittedly, my motto through life has been “ignorance is bliss”, which has backfired greatly over the years. These days I’m realizing the importance and benefits of being informed and open to new things. That’s the motivation behind this blog. While I could easily fill a page with hijinks and cautionary tales (I have another blog for that — not to say I won’t include any in this one), the real mission is to share things that make people smile, or think, or take an action.
Since joining the ranks of the unemployed a little more than a year ago, I’ve struggled to find my direction in the world. I’ve taken classes. Gone to therapy. Took an empowerment course. Left my boyfriend of five years (the course worked). Cut my hair. Interviewed with companies just to see if perhaps there was a career calling I was missing. Still… nothing has stuck.
In the midst of all this I discovered the blessings of life — something I’d been missing for years. Being in a constant state of worry over things like money and making other people happy, I neglected to stop and smell the roses… which one would think I had the knack of after working in fragrances for years. This year, my 35th, I finally got my learner’s permit, and briefly got behind the wheel of a car and successfully made it from one destination to another without causing bodily harm to any living creature. I walked the Brooklyn and Manhattan bridges in one day (more on that later). I took a spontaneous trip on a day’s notice and had an amazing time. I spent more time with my friends and family (for better and worse with the latter), and even organized a reunion — during which I revived dormant cooking skills that also thankfully didn’t kill anyone. Some things I’ve embraced will remain personal, but overall they’ve given me reasons to smile in otherwise challenging times.
Most importantly, I learned forgiveness, and how it changes your world and those around you and opens them up to so many wonderful possibilities by allowing you to see the good things that come out of a seemingly bad situation.
When you live in a self-imposed bubble, it never occurs to you what you’re missing until you finally step out into the world and realize how vast and exciting it is and how much you can contribute just by being a part of it. If you’re willing to take the chance.
Here’s to new discoveries and taking chances… Cheers!